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Hi! Just wanted to check in and see how you'r...

2011-11-07T08:44:17.052-08:00

Hi! Just wanted to check in and see how you're doing. I noticed you haven't updated your blog lately. Hopefully that means you're just busy with settling in! But, in case you need some support or advice please don't hesistate to email me. Also, make sure you take advantage of our After the Rainbow Yahoo Group (shoot me an email if you're not a member). There are so many great families there and they are a fountain of knowledge and encouragement!

Blessings,
Rachel Whitmire
Post-Adoption Care Coordinator
Reece's Rainbow Down Syndrome Adoption Ministry
www.reecesrainbow.org
Rachel@reecesrainbow.org

SO happy to read about a family who has really don...

2011-09-29T22:31:40.108-07:00

SO happy to read about a family who has really done their research and who is doing what is best for their CHILD regardless of mainstream parenting and societal pressures. You guys rock! What a doll she is and in such capable hands.

I saw your family on RR, and saw that you were bri...

2011-09-26T18:32:09.019-07:00

I saw your family on RR, and saw that you were bringing (or ad just brought) your child home. I am so happy to see you that you have been able to bring your child home!!!

I am just starting a RR journey myself.

Jaclyn
http://adoptutah.blogspot.com/

Such a great idea to let everyone around you know ...

2011-09-16T21:20:05.662-07:00

Such a great idea to let everyone around you know the situation! Very wise. I understand attachment issues from doing foster care for 9 years. It is very real! Kids with attachment problems span the gamut from not wanting connection or trusting anyone, to trusting everyone and looking at everyone as a parent. Neither is healthy and must be worked through! I pray that your family are all adjusting together and that your Hidden Treasure attaches quickly!

Such a great idea to let everyone around you know ...

2011-09-16T21:19:37.164-07:00

Congrats on your homecoming! You are doing the ri...

2011-09-09T20:22:01.112-07:00

Congrats on your homecoming! You are doing the right thing. We didn't let anyone hold our son for 3 months after we arrived home (only my husband and I and his siblings). This paid off in a big way. Our son is very well attached to us after being home for little over a year. I'll keep your family in my prayers. Enjoy each other...the adoption process is over...yay!!

Yes, Rebekah, your mom is absolutely right! Sarah...

2011-09-05T09:25:35.411-07:00

Yes, Rebekah, your mom is absolutely right!

Sarah, you are welcome to use this for your blog and modify it as you need. I got it from my friend who adopted from Korea. I'm sure I could've written something myself, but why re-invent the wheel? :)

Congrats on successfully jumping all the hurdles i...

2011-09-05T09:14:40.369-07:00

Congrats on successfully jumping all the hurdles involved in a successful international adoption. We are praying for this next step of integrating her emotionally into your family and pray it is a wonderful bonding experience. It is difficult to say "no" to loving friends and family. However, the rewards will be great for your deligent efforts!!!! Stick with your plan...we are so proud of you and your precious family. Much love and many blessings...your Murmansk pals ;-)...The Gartner Family

Very beautifully written! I may have to borrow you...

2011-09-04T19:05:12.219-07:00

Very beautifully written! I may have to borrow your post and link it to my blog when the time comes--I don't think I could write it better myself!

Will be praying for your attachment process!

Again, Congrats on bringing home your little girl!...

2011-09-03T13:10:46.978-07:00

Again, Congrats on bringing home your little girl!

I have no experience with adoption, so I found this post really interesting. What jumped out to me what that you are asking that no one else feeds her or picks her up. Here is why:

My daughter used to be EXTREMELY clingy and wouldn't go to even grandparents. I used to talk to my mom about it and asking her, "What am I suppose to do?" Then she shared with me that when they had foster babies in their home, they would go to ANYONE. "That's not good, Rebekah," she told me.

Reading your post, it clicked. I get it. You're starting from scratch in teaching her who the special people are in her life. I hope that it goes better for you than you could imagine.

completely understand! we'll be patient to see...

2011-09-02T15:49:51.983-07:00

completely understand! we'll be patient to see you all in due time...

love that you are taking great lengths to ensure her mental stability and assurance of love and family. I know everyone's asking if they can help, but we're on that wagon, too.

we love you. we together continue to pray for you EIGHT.

Thanks so much for your posts, Brandy. Although I...

2011-09-02T13:25:40.176-07:00

Thanks so much for your posts, Brandy. Although I've wondered about attachment after adoption and heard bits and pieces, I would not have known some of the details you shared like you 2 being the ones to pick her up, etc. Thanks so much for educating some of us who just don't have any experience with this. I will do more research too!
Rhonda